Guidelines for Helping Others in a Domestic Violence Situation

If you suspect that someone you know is in an abusive relationship, there are many things that you can do to help. Keep supporting that person, even if you feel that she does not want help. Making the decision to get help and possibly leave the relationship is a process that takes time.

Here are some general guidelines:

• Ask direct questions, gently, and give her ample opportunity to talk. Don't rush into providing solutions.
• Listen--without judging.
• Let her know that you support and care for her, that she is not responsible for the violence, and that only the abuser can stop the violence.
• Let her know that she is not alone, that millions of women suffer from domestic abuse. Tell her that domestic violence is a crime and that she can seek protection from the criminal justice system.
• If she has children, let her know that domestic violence is damaging to children, and that if she thinks they don't know about the violence--they do!
• Tell her that without some form of intervention, the violence will get worse.
• If she remains in the relationship, continue to be her friend while at the same time communicating to her that she and her children do not deserve to live in a violent home.
• Provide her with information about domestic violence services--she can contact the Family Violence Center at 920-432-4224.
• If you want more information about helping someone in an abusive relationship, feel free to Golden House at any time. It can be very draining, frustrating, and confusing to be supportive of others. Don't forget to take care of yourself.

Call 920-432-4224 for more information.